By Deven Green
Photo: Michael Serrato
Tom Goss has been a dear musical friend who, through his highly acclaimed music, brings awareness, diversity, and a connectivity in his live shows and thought-provoking videos.
Tom, you create your own music, music videos, calendars, posters, tours and everything else. Your musicianship is all-encompassing. Where does this drive come from?
I’ve always had it. Whatever I’m passionate about, I’m obsessive about. It’s what made me a great athlete as well. I think people assume that things come easily to me, trust me, they don’t. I’m a nose to the grindstone kind of guy. I’ll do something 10,000 times until I get it right. It’s served me well over my life, but sometimes I (and my husband) wish I could just take a day off. There are certain things that everyone else loves, that I just don’t understand. For instance, the beach. I cannot fathom what one would do at the beach for more than 3 minutes.
Take us on your body-awareness/body image journey in your videos.
I didn’t realize I was gay until I was 23. Now, I don’t say I didn’t come out of the closet until I was 23, because the truth is, I had no idea! I was always an athlete, always hanging with, and showering with, young, fit, handsome and earnest Midwestern men. I didn’t find them sexually attractive. I didn’t find women sexually attractive either. I assumed I was asexual. I wasn’t. The fact is, I’m sexually attracted to bigger men. And by bigger, I don’t mean tall; I mean chubby. There is no representation of that in mainstream media. We are told beauty is one shape, one size. That’s not how I see the world and I know I’m not alone. I want to create content that reflects how I see the world. I want to reveal the beauty of all shapes and sizes to the world.
You have become a strong leader and voice in the gay community, in particular, the “bear community.” Why such an affinity?
I am, and always will be, an outspoken voice for that which I see as beautiful and marginalized. That’s why I tell stories about my community. I see insane amounts of beauty, kindness, talent, and compassion in the bear community. I am grateful to be a part of it.
Your videos always include diversity. Where do you find such rare talents?
Diversity is important to me; it always has been. I want to create art that reflects the world that I live in, and that’s a diverse world. Finding diverse talents isn’t hard; they’re everywhere. I look forward to the day when we don’t see it as diverse; we see it as normal.
What have been the best responses to your music?
Almost daily I get the most heartfelt letters about how my music has touched someone. My music has played at weddings, funerals, birthday parties, pretty much all of the most precious moments of a person’s life. I’ve helped people see their own beauty, that floors me. I’ve helped people get through the worst of times, and celebrate the best of times, what an honor. That’s why I do this. I am humbled by the power of music and storytelling; I will never betray that responsibility.
Tom, you are an inspiration. Thank you.
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